Dear Pastor Megaleio,
I am lettering you openly believing that you will perceive the message. I couldn’t write to you confidentially because the last time we discussed something we didn’t seem to agree on it went a toxic route. I had to clear all our chats to ensure I don’t go back to them and experience such toxicity again.
Megaleio, you may need to have some withdrawal from social media, look inwards and genuinely ask yourself “am I doing the right thing?” I couldn’t come privately because I don’t want to encounter such toxicity again. Perhaps you aren’t doing these things designedly. Conceivably, it is a part of you that I don’t understand but for now, whatever I could make out of your temperament whenever you have arguments with a brother reeks of toxic energy.
I have noticed the open-ended squabbles between you and another brother and with all sense of modesty, I can say it is unhealthy, wholly redundant and at odds with what should be ministerial values. If indeed you see yourself as the preferred person, someone who has been touched by God more than He has touched others, then you should know better, you should know when to be silent and when to let certain things slide. I think some contentions are not worth it, I think some things are too trifling to cause such toxicity.
I may be wrong but the suggestive shades that you keep throwing here and there reek of resentment. I have never done this before, I don’t go to people’s posts to argue, I don’t even go to people’s inbox to react to their posts, I like to stay to myself and if I must say something, I write on my walls but for some days, I have not been able to let this pass. Each time I come to Facebook, I see it and I cringe. Coming public with this open letter took me a lot of courage and I pray you don’t visit me with your rage.
Megaleio Sir, the brother you are up and against is a colleague in this faith, a dedicated one at that. He isn’t just a mediocre guy who goes about ranting things that has no bases. He is someone who has been committed to the cause, someone who to some extent I can say is grounded. Based on your rating, I may not have the right to talk to you on this issue because I have not been sworn in as a Clergyman but consider me as a horse without a name through whom a message has been passed.
I think you should mellow down on how you attack those you disagree with. Don’t ever think that you are making sense whenever your purpose is to shut people up rather than have an honest conversation. You could be saying the right thing but the wrong way which makes it entirely wrong, I think you need to talk to yourself, you need to call yourself to order and forewarn yourself.
You have often talked about unity but does this unity only have to do with those who agree with you? You have always talked about respect for father but your artless statements about people including clergies that you don’t agree with or believe in leave us wondering what exactly you are up against. A difference with people you believe in is perceived as an attack on the Church by you but you don’t see anything awry when the coin flips and you are the one manifesting the same character you despise.
Your dissimilarity with people shouldn’t always be associated with certain kinds of words. Often you may think it is the body of Christ that you are defending but if you can be sincere to yourself, you may suddenly discern that you are defending your ego and causing strife and divisions in the body.
We can disagree on certain issues but still have a lot of things we agree on, why not focus on what we agree on and build a relationship rather than focus on the little things we disagree on and destroy a relationship?
“Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.” Colossians 4:6
“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29
“Let no one look down on your youthfulness, but rather in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, show yourself an example of those who believe.” 1 Timothy 4:12
Dear Megaleio, I hope you take your time to meditate on this rather than launch another missile from your arsenal.