Let’s not beat about the bush, honour is a beautiful thing and anyone who walks in honour glows in radiant beauty. We can’t beat it, it’s a principle that is the shortcut to greatness. Anyone who frowns at the mention of honour has a very deep problem and it’s not good for the mental wellbeing and the future of that person.
You see, the wisdom of God is foolishness to men who walk after the flesh and not by the Spirit. To walk by the Spirit is to walk by the dictates of God’s word as Jesus said
“…And the very words I have spoken to you are spirit and life.” – John 6:63 NLT
People who think they can be ahead or behind God’s word and it’s principles are shortsighted and would hardly see that they are on sinking sand. The foolish man builds on sand because he is foolish and can’t see the sand for what it is. Humility is a building block and also a solid foundation of every greatness.
Honour is a product of humility and every humility comes with honour. Where honour is lacking there is no humility no matter how we pretend about it. People often pride in their humility, you hear things like “I am a humble person” but that’s not what we are talking about. That’s false humility.
Humility is not announced, humility is seen and it is seen in the way we live and honour is one of it. Whenever we are antagonistic about honour, watch it, it’s always a crack from where our pride leaks out for people to see. Honour is the evidence of humility and there is a divine backing on anyone who walks in humility.
“And whosoever shall exalt himself shall be abased; and he that shall humble himself shall be exalted.” – Matthew 23:12 KJV
“…God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.” – James 4:6 KJV
Be humble so that you are not humbled. A life of dishonour is a call to be humbled and when you have to be humbled, it’s not a beautiful experience. Humility is beautiful when it’s your own choice and not when you are being pressured.
Those who live a life of honour makes it to the top easily but those who don’t live a life of honour may have a temporal feeling of greatness but they are blind, their pride don’t let them see. One day, they will be hit with reality.
God doesn’t literally drag the proud or dishonourable person down, they are the architects of their own downfall because the natural order works against them. They will think they are progressing but suddenly, in a twinkle of an eye, they have walked into their own destruction.
The reason is because pride won’t let you subject yourself to those who are greater than you, it doesn’t let you seek mentorship and guidance, it doesn’t let you admit your mistakes, it doesn’t let you make corrections. So, somehow, an egocentric person will orchestrate his downfall.
Honour applies to all sector of life, whether in the family, in organisations, in the workplace, in the gathering of Saints and anywhere else. The scriptures are not silent on it at all.
1. Honour your parents.
“Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: If you honour your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.” – Ephesians 6:2-3 NLT
There is a promise attached to honouring our parents. This honour is without a condition and you don’t have to feel it to do it. When we honour our parents, things will go well with us on earth and we will live a long life. This is because, we will be willing to listen to them, seek their blessings and accept their rebuke.
2. Honour your boss
“Slaves, obey your earthly masters with deep respect and fear. Serve them sincerely as you would serve Christ. Work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.” – Ephesians 6:5, 7 NLT
Ephesians was written in a time that there was still slave-culture. Today, Paul would have written, “honour your employer…” Sometimes we face very tough and insensitive employers, we wake up every day remembering how terribly they treated us the previous day but we must honour them with deep reverence.
The reason we honour them is for the sake of Christ and we carry out responsibilities given to us as though the business belongs to God. Many people do not understand that honour is the way to greatness. When we work this way, one day, we may have the opportunity to run our own businesses and we will realize how those experience have helped shaped and improved our own skills.
3. Honour your employee
“Masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Don’t threaten them; remember, you both have the same Master in heaven, and he has no favourites.” – Ephesians 6:9 NLT
Paul subtly closed the gap between Masters and servants, he boldly declared that both the master and the servant are all servants of God and therefore subject to God.
Employers or Bosses as you may wish to call it are not Gods, they are also humans who need direction. Many times, employers don’t get the best of their employees because they disrespect their employees and see themselves as better than them.
If you could do it all by yourself, you wouldn’t have sort for the help of your employee. The fact that you employed someone shows that you needed help. Therefore, honour should be reciprocal. The Bible didn’t say masters should honour less, Paul writes “treat your servants in the same way…” The same level of respect a servant gives to his master is required of the master towards the servant.
4. Honour those in authority
“Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God. So anyone who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and they will be punished.” – Romans 13:1-2 NLT
I have written extensively on this subject in a previous blog. You can read it up. Regardless of we like a government administration or not, regardless if they are believers or not, we have been instructed to honour them. We do this by loving them and praying for them.
This doesn’t mean we can’t criticize ungodly styles of leadership, it doesn’t mean we can’t condemn evil practices especially in a Democracy but even when we do, we should search our hearts to see the motives.
5. Honour your Pastors
“Dear brothers and sisters, honour those who are your leaders in the Lord’s work. They work hard among you and give you spiritual guidance. Show them great respect and wholehearted love because of their work. And live peacefully with each other.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13 NLT
If not for anything else, your leaders in the Christian ministry needs to be greatly honoured for the sake of what they do and the office they occupy. They need your corporation, support and encouragement too.
Most people who have never had any leadership role are those who find it very easy to criticize and dishonour leaders. The role of leaders is usually tasking, they aren’t only living for themselves, they are living and giving their entire existence to others.
Paul calls the honour they deserve “double honour” and this is especially for those who truly labour to teach you and train you in God’s word.
“The elders who direct the affairs of the church well are worthy of double honour, especially those whose work is preaching and teaching.” – 1 Timothy 5:17 NIV
6. Honour your spouse
– Honour your husband.
“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33 NLT
The Bible teaches that married couples are captains of the same ship. However, the man is the leader of the marriage while both are leaders of the home. Every wife must honour their husband and respect his office.
– Honour your wife.
“In the same way, you husbands must give honour to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.” – 1 Peter 3:7 NLT
We often hear people talk about wives submitting and honouring their husbands but we hardly hear people teach husbands to honour their wives. God’s word was never silent on it and that’s why it is surprising when some preachers make the Bible appear as though it cares less how wives are treated in marriage.
Peter calls the wife and equal partner to her husband regardless of the weakness of her muscles. How one treats his wife can affect how he receives from God. Lack of honour for your wife can be the start of danger and failure.
7. Honour one another
“Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honouring each other.” – Romans 12:10 NLT
No single person is deserving of honour than another person. It is easy for leaders to demand honour but dishonour those that they lead. It is easy for leaders to ask for the support of others but never support them in return. Some husbands demand honour from their wives but never return honour for honour and some parents demand honour from children and never honour their children.
Honour is not a sign of weakness or cowardice, it is a sign of genuine affection. Honour should be done with delight! The beggar on the street needs to be honoured, the least staff in your office, needs to be honoured! Nobody is excluded! Honour one another, that’s the instruction.
In fulfilling these demands of honour, we are honouring God. I wanted to write another bullet on honouring God and then I realized that we honour God when we honour one another in obedience to God’s word.
Honour makes us beautiful, it makes things easy and there is no hard labour in honour when we are truly walking in love. Honour makes us beautiful, dishonour makes us ugly in our hearts and mind.
You are blessed.