WHAT MEN WISH YOU KNOW ABOUT THEM

God wired the man and the woman differently and like I previously taught in my article, men and women can be thinking and acting differently at same occasion and circumstances. God didn’t wire us differently to bring confusion, he wired us that way so that we can truly complement each other. We have done a lot of job trying to understand the woman but the man at some point seem to be a myth to the woman. Okay, this is what every man would wish their woman knows about them!

1. HE WANTS TO BE CELEBRATED

Every man wants to be celebrated by their woman and if you ever understand this you will see how simply affirming to another “he is my man” would turn his head around and make him crazier about you. Okay, I am not talking about players here; I am talking about real relationships.

Acknowledging your man both in private and in public shows them that you respect them. A man will always want to do better when he is aware that his woman believes in him and admire him! Oh, you think it only goes for the women? If you want to enjoy the best of that man who loves you, then be proud of him anywhere and anytime.

2. HE WANTS YOU TO FIND OUT

Just in case you don’t know, men also get very moody at times and many times they are simply trying to give you a clue that there is something you may have done wrong and they want you to find out yourself. A man may not quickly come up to you to tell you that he met you hugging another man. He may just stay moody or even angry; he wants you to ask him over and over again what the problem is! This is not to say that all the time he gets moody you are the problem. Sometimes, when certain things go wrong, he may not say it but he wants you to force words out of his mouth!

3. HE WANTS TO PROVIDE THE MOST

When you see a man who always wants you to be the provider, that man doesn’t love you. Like it or not, a man who loves you will always want to provide for you and this isn’t something you can help. God wired men in that manner and when it comes to taking care of their loved ones materially, men are very good in that. Whether you are making so much money than him, the man wants to always provide for you.

Your simple acceptance and appreciation of his gifts makes him relaxed. Every man wants their woman to understand this about them and show them strong appreciations for it. So, next time your man makes some provisions available to you, appreciate it, give him a hug and tell him “thank you so much for all you do. I am super grateful.” Men will feel bad seeing that someone else met the needs of their woman, it hurts them! Do you know a man will quickly feel insecure when you don’t let him know your needs? Even when they don’t have it, they would want to help in any way just to prove “I am responsible for you!”

4. HE WANTS YOU TO KNOW HOW MUCH!

Men don’t just want to show how much they love you, they also want their displays of love to be acknowledged. Sometimes, men buy gifts, not just to show their love but to get the woman acknowledge that they are doing enough. Your acknowledgement gives them the feeling that you understand they love you and it gives them confidence to do more. When a man’s love goes unacknowledged, he feels it is a seed sown on the rock.

When a man is truly in love with you, he can invest his own comfort just for you but he wants you to know that he is making all those efforts just for you!

5. HE LOVES YOUR BODY TOO

Forget about men who religion has dealt with, your man will always want you to make conscious effort in looking good! When a woman keeps taking care of her body, the man appreciates it a lot! It doesn’t mean the man is the reason you should look good but you can use a stone to catch two birds!

The man feels very proud of his woman when she appear gorgeous and trust me, they will always want to be instrumental to it. Attraction is not love but it is usually a foothold where love spring forth roots! The man want his woman to keep being attractive to him at all times!

6. HE WANT TO BE ROMANTIC

Trust me when I say this, a lot of men are still learning to express romance and they’d look sticky and cold at times but they enjoy romance, they want it and they wish to get it rolling! Because men are usually afraid of failure, they seem not to try but he want his woman to understand that he wants to try!

Understanding this as a woman helps you coach him into what you know how to do best! Sometimes, a man is seeking opportunities to express romance beyond just helping you do house chores but the woman doesn’t understand this because it is perceived generally that men are cold. Anyway, your man wants you to know that he enjoys romance and wants you to help him display it.

7. HE MAY LOOK IT DOESN’T MEAN HE WANT IT.

Dismiss it as a mere opinion but it is one truth you must have in mind. Men are attracted by what they see but it doesn’t mean it would move their feet away from you. Men are usually tempted by things that appear awesome but they decide to yield to it or not.

On the other hand, men can pay false attention to something but the heart knows where it belongs. So, if you catch your man staring at what you wouldn’t want him to stare at, you could just call his attention without being judgemental! You can tell him “wow! She’s pretty right?” and you’ll hear him say “not better than you!” Men have no control to what appears to them but they actually have control to what they do with it.

8. THERE IS MORE TO SEX THAN SEX

When a wife send signals of sexual affection to her husband, he doesn’t just see this as sex, it means much more than few minutes of sex, it also means wholesome acceptance of who he is! There is no better confidence than that which happens in this kind of scenario because the man feels comfortable to make advances that will definitely not get a “no”.

But when a husband gets a sense of rejection when he tries making sexual advances, he feels terrible and rejected! This rejection is not interpreted by the man as sexual rejection; he interprets it as an overall rejection! In marriage, sex is not overrated, it is vital! In love, sex means so much to men as it also means so much to women. Maybe now you know that in love, men don’t have sex just for the pleasure.

9. HE WANTS MORE OF YOUR DESIRE

A man wants more and more desires of his woman. The man wants his woman to desire more of him and this makes marriage incredibly awesome. Sometimes, a husband makes advances on his wife not because he is wired to want more sex but because he want to know the level of desire his wife have for him.

Now you understand why he feels terribly bad when he gets “no” especially without any soothing explanation. It would be better if the woman learn how to say no without hurting him because for him sex is another way he interprets love while for a woman it is another way she express love.

10. HE IS INSECURE

Okay, I want to cap it up with the issue of insecurity. Hold it; don’t think I am trying to defend certain people’s over-protectiveness and extreme display of jealousy! But this is very important that you know. Being insecure to some sort is part of being a man.

The big deal is, they may never express this vocally but they can feel a great degree of insecurity and want you to help them get secured by your constant expressions of love. Affirming your love for them solves everything! When he is upset or moody, it may just be nothing but your affirmation of love that they need! Telling them how much you love them and genuinely responding to their “I love you” brings back the feeling of security! You will enjoy every bit of your man when he is secured in his relationship with you because for him, you are his priority!

For those who peeped into this, I believe it will spice up your already wonderful relationships.

Blessings!