HOW TO HANDLE REJECTION

Rejection is such a big deal for some people, they don’t want to entertain the thought of it talk more of experience it but one thing is sure, rejection will happen one way or another and it is usually attached to failure. Something is probably wrong with you if you haven’t experienced rejection at some point in your life. We often hear that it’s only Ice Cream sellers that everyone is pleased with but I take exception to that, many people like me won’t like ice cream sellers either!Big deal for you or not, rejection is beautiful to a very great extent and the day you start seeing the beauty of rejection is the day you start appreciating those who had rejected you in the past. For those who hold on to the Bible, we know that Jesus was rejected by most Jews and their rejection of Jesus opened the door for the Gentiles! Don’t always see the bad side of rejection, also look at what God is doing in your life with it.Would Joseph had become who he was in Egypt if his brothers had accepted him as much as Jacob did? If they had become overprotective of him, they would have protected him from a destiny too! Many times, those who reject us don’t even know they are working for our good. When you are rejected by any means, there are few things you should keep in mind

1. ACCEPT YOURSELF

The biggest problem one has isn’t that people gave up on him but that he gave up on himself. What are you saying about yourself? How are you handling your emotions during rejection? Do you also give up on yourself and your dreams just because the door was shut on you? There are people who would want to commit suicide just because they were rejected, some feel very worthless and lack the motivation to live. This is where failure and depression set in. Accept yourself, look yourself in the mirror and speak beautiful words to yourself. Those who reject you are just a number. You’ve got the majority because you have a higher percentage of stake in your life right after God.

2. KNOW THAT GOD ACCEPTED YOU

One with God is the majority. The Bible says in Ephesians 1:6“To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.”God has accepted you and there is nothing anyone can do about it. Yes, you may have some flaws but it didn’t deter God from accepting you, he saw all of those faults but he accepted you anyway. God is the first majority, you are the second majority and every other opinion doesn’t count that much. People’s rejection is not a proof of God’s rejection, it can be a medium of seeing God’s acceptance even more clearly. The Bible says in Psalms 27:10“Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.”

3. LOOK BACK AGAIN AT PURPOSE

While the feeling isn’t always so good, don’t treat rejection as a big deal, see it as part of God’s script for your life playing out! It was part of God’s script that Joseph’s rejection by his brothers will lead him to the path of destiny. No one knows what Joseph’s life would have been without rejection. Look back at purpose, find reasons to be thankful and focus on what you are doing. The Bible says in Jeremiah 29:11“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future'”Instead of focusing on the rejections, focus on God’s plans for your life.

4. EXAMINE YOURSELF

It is very possible that there is something about us that makes people reject us, some are senseless reasons while some are very sensible reasons. As much as people’s rejection shouldn’t make us reject ourselves, it should motivate us to look inwards to see if there is anything that isn’t right. When we find favour among men, it is easy to scale certain heights.Men have always been channels through which God blesses us and if every man we come across keeps rejecting us, then something isn’t right. We must examine our attitudes towards others, we must ensure that we live at peace with all men and we must ensure that the aura of our presence is full of joy, this will endear people to us. The Bible says in Proverbs 3:3-4 NLT“Never let loyalty and kindness leave you! Tie them around your neck as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart. Then you will find favour with both God and people, and you will earn a good reputation.”Be full of kindness and love, let it be your overall attitude and this way, both God and men will favour you. You are already favoured of God but you need to be favoured of men because God uses men!

5. NEVER LIVE IN REGRETS

Whether you were rejected for a fault of yours or you were rejected just like that, one thing you will never do is to live in regrets. If you made a mistake somewhere, pick up yourself and retrace your steps but don’t start living in regrets. It is okay to learn from our mistakes but it is unhealthy to let our mistakes follow us around. Don’t make anyone deceive you into thinking you are the worst! If you were rejected for no fault of yours, don’t let anyone make you think you are so unfortunate. You are simply like that rejected stone that is becoming the chief cornerstone.

6. ACCEPT OTHERS

What different are you from others when after crying over the hurts they meted out on you decided to pay back in the same coin or heap the hurt on someone else? The same way a snake won’t change just because you are kind to it, do not change because people were unkind to you. Love your enemies, accept those who rejected you and live in peace with all men. Forgive yourself and forgive your traducers.Forgiveness isn’t just about freeing your offender from guilt, it’s also about freeing yourself from the grips of pain, bitterness and hurts. As you hold on to people’s offence, remember that you weren’t any better and that you are a beneficiary of someone’s forgiveness.This way, you will live a more fruitful life, a life that is free of bitterness and full of love. You’ve got joy inside of you, let it resonate above every rejection. You’ll surely look at yesterday and say “thank you Lord for the rejections.”Blessings!

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