DON’T COMPETE WITH YOUR STUDENTS

Have you ever come across someone who started doing what you do probably because you were doing it? Have you ever come across someone who quickly starts a fitness club just after you informed people that you were starting a fitness club? Your understanding of the situation will greatly define how you approach life and the kind of result and impact you would make afterwards. It is okay if you are the one who started something similar to a big name and decided to compete so that you can have a niche for what you do but the truth is this: most times, the big names have loyalists that you just aren’t going to get. You may be targeting the same kind of audience but your audience might still be different! While you feel that you compete with the big names, they remain big by not competing you!

So, how do you interpret the fact that a friend, an admirer or even an enemy started doing what you do? You may see it as a contest and you disparage yourself by fighting with those you are supposed to be coaching. Tell me, if you are a trained dancer and you decided to make out time every week to host street dance concourses and suddenly you realized that someone else started something similar down the road, not because he or she is trained for it but because they saw you doing it, competing with them will only mean bringing yourself down to their level! Most people want to compete with imperfections just so that they can stay afloat but when you look from an angle, you will realize that they only ended up bringing themselves down to the level of whomever they want to compete with.

“While you feel that you compete with the big names, they remain big by not competing you!”

When you interpret people’s imitation of you as a call to competition, you are belittling yourself. They should be the one struggling to meet up to your standard and not you! When you see it as a competition, you are disparaging yourself by struggling with those you are supposed to be coaching. During the times I coach people, one thing I realize is that it makes me better than them because I must always have to study and learn ahead of them not because I want to compete with them but because I want to stay relevant and teach them better!

On the other hand, you may see people’s imitation of you as a threat to surpass you and you will end up suffering from low self-esteem. You may have had some sense of low self-esteem for you to think that those who look up to you are outshining you in what you know how to do best. It shouldn’t be your problem even if they are getting so better at it, the problem is when you aren’t getting better at what you do. Those who look up to you will be better than you when you aren’t making efforts to get better in what you do and stay relevant. The day you lose relevance, they will stop looking up to you.

“When you see it as a competition, you are disparaging yourself by struggling with those you are supposed to be coaching.”

Therefore, the best way to interpret it when people do what you do is to see them as people who look up to you, people who you owe more and more improvements and people you are helping bring out the best of them. They wouldn’t have wanted to do it if you kept failing at it after all. The sky is too spacious that birds don’t collide when they fly together and the field is too large that we all can cultivate it! Why not pride in the fact that you are inspiring people to do just what you are doing? If it is worth it, then it is worth the follower-ship! Even when they don’t come to you to make you their official coach, always know that in their hearts they hold you in high esteem and they will always remember you each them they achieve every level of success! Even if they happened to be your enemies, they truly admire and respect you. So, all you may need to do is to reach out a hand of friendship and alliance!

“They wouldn’t have wanted to do it if you kept failing at it after all.”

I agree, some people do what you do out of envy and the motive to outshine you but you can give only them that possibility by competing with them or you help straighten them by snubbing their motive and wanting the best for them. You could still fall blind eyes to their motive and offer them help and chances to learn from you! This will probably change their motive because love transforms people! Instead of engaging in a deleterious contest and unnecessary race with people who look up to you, why not reach out to them and cheer them?

See it this way.

They started doing what you are doing because they love what you do, they got inspired by it and they decided to make you their model, directly or indirectly. You are simply their inspiration!

Don’t compete with your students! You are the one who set the exam and the rules.