IS IT GOSSIP OR NOT?

Our purpose for anything we want to do determines the result. Two persons may set out for the same mission with different motives and their results will never be the same because intentions are the drive of every action. Very good action with an evil intention still ends up being very evil. Do you think the devil looks like what we see in Nollywood movies? Do you think evil looks ugly? Do you think they look scary? Ah, no… You may be mistaken! Sometimes, evil looks cute and caring but its intention isn’t different from the mission of the devil, it’s intention is to destroy!

“Very good action with an evil intention still ends up being very evil.

Your mission isn’t necessarily defined by what you are set out to do, it is defined by the motives behind your actions. The chief sponsor of actions is motives. One person may spank a child because she wants to save the child from a mistake but another may spank a child on same occasion because she wants to discharge her anger on the child. It may seem to the onlookers that both are either wicked or caring but the motives are what truly defines what they desired to gain from whatever they did.

Scratch that a bit… Let’s digress!

Sometimes, we are serving a purpose we don’t even know when we do certain things. What on earth do you think can be achieved by gossiping people? To gossip, people mean to unnecessarily report people’s private life and give out details that aren’t confirmed to be true especially to paint them bad. Previously, I had written on why it is bad to gossip and I just felt like doing a little exhortation today on the same subject.

“Your mission isn’t necessarily defined by what you are set out to do, it is defined by the motives behind your actions.”

You’re on a devil’s mission when all you do is stage others and gossip someone basically because you don’t like them. What makes gossip evil isn’t that the rumours you are spreading don’t have atoms of truth but because atoms of truth don’t mean truth, as 99.9% truth + 0.01% lie is still 100% lie. Positivity mixed with negativity still ends up being negative… 

There has never been time gossip came in the platter of complete truth, there must be a touch of lie to make it newsworthy and in most cases, it doesn’t have to be a touch of a lie, it had to be all lies! No gossip is aimed at making people better, it is usually a means of painting other people bad, not to save them but to further damage them. Some people gossip, claiming that they did it with good intention but how is it a good intention when you can say something behind someone but never get to stand before them and repeat it? Gossips are usually based on wrong assumptions from real happenings!

“99.9% truth + 0.01% lie is still 100% lie.”

That she slept over in his house might have to be a true incident but that they had sex and she had an abortion for him later would be a lie because you only assumed it based on your inability to control yourself when you find yourself in that same situation. Most times, people who gossip, judge experiences from the perspective of their weakness. They always assume that whatever they would have done in a situation is what another would do. So, anytime they see two persons smile at each other, they assume there is something more to that smile!

Let me make this plain.

It is not wrong to assume but your assumptions are your calculations, the lowest form of knowledge and the most unnecessary thing to share with others. If you have anything against someone, they should be the first person you share it with and if you must share it with other people, they must be aware that you are sharing it. If you have to start or end conversations with “don’t let him know I am the one who told you…” then you are most likely to be gossip!

There has never been time gossip came in the platter of complete truth

It is not gossip when you used another person’s well-known mistakes to help others out of making the same mistake. It is not gossip when people’s weaknesses and strength becomes a point of discussion so that we can approve or disapprove of them being part of our projects. It is not gossip when we are bothered about someone but can’t address them and then we decide to approach someone else who can help us to help them. Talking about others with an intention not to hurt them but to help them or help others isn’t gossip. This is why I pointed out earlier that our motives go a long way to define our actions no matter how bad or good they appear on the surface. When you suspect a woman going through abuse in the hands of her husband and you decide to open up to someone about it with a motive to save her, you aren’t gossiping; you are rather helping.

It becomes gossip when your motive is that of malice, resentment, deceit and other negativity. There are times we talk about people because we want to release hope, guide others and share lessons! When our motive is right, we surely may not have to call names and point pictures when it is going to bring about personal damage to someone else. You will be proud to look people in the eyes and repeat what you said about them when you don’t have the wrong motives.

“It is not wrong to assume but your assumptions are your calculations, the lowest form of knowledge and the most unnecessary thing to share with others.”

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