Valentine’s day came, I didn’t have the best experience anyway! Yesterday I got into a mess, I got hit and some of my stuffs and even my major blogging device was taken from me. Sometimes being alone have its disadvantages, sometimes you’d want to talk to someone not because they have solutions but because they can allow you to lean on their shoulders and keep walking! Sometimes two makes the journey easier! And I learnt that anyone who is truly concerned about you, who cares and support you, who always want to go through it all with you deserves appreciation! Yea, many people want to think that Valentine’s day is flawed, some are religiously sentimental about their stand but see, aside Valentine’s day, if you’ve got someone who loves you, someone who is always there at least all the times he or she can, you have to do your best to show appreciation! Yea, no matter how nonspiritual this sounds, we are still heading towards perfection which can’t happen ultimately in this lifetime. So, don’t expect that love to thrive in the midst of neglect and lack of appreciation! I want to share with you how best you could appreciate your partner, your best friend or that special person who loves you!
Appreciations doesn’t have to be massive! You don’t have to break the bank and do all sort of things to show you appreciate someone! A simple text like “I sincerely appreciate every role you have played in my life. Words may lack expressions of how I feel but I appreciate and love you!” can mean just the world to someone! It doesn’t have to be a house or a car gift! Let me gives us a few hints.
1. EVERYDAY IS GREAT TO LOVE-BACK!
You don’t have to depend on special days like Valentine to show someone how much you appreciate their love. Yea, you can take huge advantage of Valentine but you don’t need a special day to do something great for that person who has been there for you! Like noted earlier, it doesn’t have to be something massive! You don’t need a reason or an odd motive to show appreciation, you aren’t showing appreciation for more love! You are doing it to show that you have been given love! Believe me, relationship starts getting shaky when one starts becoming cold and trust me, anytime one starts getting cold that relationship is on the brisk of collapse! So, keep the fire of love burning! This way and with simple things, you will see how important your lover will feel.
2. PAY ATTENTION TO THE LITTLE ACTS OF LOVE!
If some people begin to tell you the kind of things they go through just to put a smile on your face, you’d wonder “am I worth it?” Believe me, sometimes that person who loves you can just have to withdraw his or her last savings just to put a smile on your face! They are just happy making you happy. You may never know how they came about it if they never tell you and it would be very bad and discouraging if you receive those things from them with just a cold smile and cold “thank you!” I know you may not be that person who is always expressive with excitements but you just say things like “I know I may not be able to show you how I feel but believe me, I strongly appreciate this! I am super grateful.” Pay attention to the very little things your lover do for you! Things as little as helping you do your fair share of the chores! Yea, if he or she helps you do the laundry, don’t just smile past it, try to add a little expression! There are people who just go through a lot to show acts of love and making them know that you pay attention to all they do for you makes them know that you truly appreciate their efforts!
3. ALWAYS WISH THEM WELL IN ACTIONS
Like I wrote earlier, some go just through a lot to ensure you are happy and comfortable. Maybe He or she spent some money on you, it will be great if randomly you ask questions about business or career! Your lover needs you encouragement and support as regards where they earn from. Because you are special to them, you have become an added responsibility to them whether you like it or not. You may not have to make demands but they are observing what you need! You may even afford it but anyone who loves you wants to be part of it! So, it is important to ask about your lovers business, it is important to pray for them, it is important to always be an encouragement to your lover as regards to his or her career. When what you do becomes of less important to your partner, believe me, you aren’t in their hearts anymore.
4. DATE HIM OR HER AGAIN!
Oh yea! It is usually exciting the first times you started dating your partner! It was new and fresh and sometimes you feel like that moment should never come to an end. During breakups one of the things people always remember and hold on to is “all the good times we share together.” Part of those good times are those moments they went on dates. You can appreciate your partner by reviving those exciting things you guys did in the beginning! You can take him out to that place you guys first met and talk about the experiences so far! You could take him or her to the movies, to beautiful places or give them a nice treat from their favourites! You can also date your wife or your husband right in your bedroom! Be young at heart and bring back the memories of the initial stages of your love-life with your spouse alive. You can look him or her in the eyes and say “I am falling in love with you again!” You can dance together, watch movies together and just those things that loosens you up with your partner!
5. JUST LOVE HIM OR HER
It all boils down to loving your spouse new every morning! Love is beyond feelings, you can create those feelings yourself. You can magnify the good things in your spouse, magnify his or her beauty even though you have gotten use to it, magnify their good characters and intentionally cherish them. Say to yourself “I will just love him and nothing is stopping that!” This way, your everyday expression is that of appreciation. Don’t make it hard for your partner.
Romantic relationships built on love is a very beautiful stuff! And until I find and hold on to my own partner, manage this little gift from a single young man and spice up your relationship! It is beautiful, make it more beautiful.
I am George O.N