LOVE CAN LET GO | When you don’t have to fight more…


“True love stays and fight to the end! If someone loves you, they will fight for you to the end!” This sounds nice but on the average it isn’t entirely true! It can be true in the world of Romeo and Juliet but even Shakespeare who created that romantic world failed to understand what he communicated. He painted a picture of how far attraction and infatuation would go and not how far love would go! Love doesn’t happen at first sight you know! True love has its own time of letting go too, love is not all about sticking together, it is also about knowing when staying apart will be the best way to meet the need of the other person. Moving a different path isn’t an end of love, it is just an end of a relationship and relationships aren’t solely determined by love as there are other factors that determines a relationship. Love simply means putting the other person’s need above yourself and there are times the other person needs you to let them go. Knowing that people can be happy without you and allowing them pursue it is a remarkable display of love especially when you have invested so much in that relationship. There is a place of protecting someone but there are cases when it isn’t protection but a selfish means of trying to hold someone to yourself.
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When we talk about letting go, we are always familiar with letting go in relationships and breakups, we are very familiar with moving from hurts but we scarcely hear about letting go even when things seems good. Sometimes, certain leaders know a particular person is supposed to be leading a certain kind of group, they know that person should be somewhere else and not even in their own fold but they don’t let such person go, they keep bringing up all kinds of devices just to pin that person down and make him never realize where he is supposed to be! In their heart they think it is love for that person that is making them never want to lose them but sometimes it is selfishness! It is like a woman who never loved a man but wanted his money, she will keep pretending till she drill the man and take off whatever she had in mind!
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Because we love someone is more reason why we have to let them go when they need to go and we have to help make it an easy transition for them! When you know God is calling your protégé into something greater than where you’d be able to help him get to, let him go! Stop making him feel bad for hearkening to God’s call, stop making him question if it is really God or the devil! When you know you aren’t truly the person meant for that man or woman, you clearly understand that you will be a limitation to their lives and calling, why not let them go? Why not make it easier for them to move on. Letting go whether in relationships and other sectors of life is the highest display of love at that moment! Letting go of whom you love hurts so well but if you have to, you have to! Maybe along the line, there would be a better way to click again and this time for a better reason!
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I once served a Man of God who called me one time and said to me “George, I have seen where God wants to take you to and it is not the usual thing people are used to. Being with me will only limit your calling, I will always want you to do my own kind of stuff and follow my own kind of rules, it will fade the great part of you that people will need to see. You are not the type that is meant to be caged somewhere, you can only manifest in the wild, that is where God wants to use you so well… Yes, in the wild! I want you to rise up and leave but if you don’t believe am saying the truth or am trying to just discard you anyhow you can stay back! Staying back will make you become who you are not.”
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He didn’t sent me away like that. I still stayed for sometime but he just wanted me to know that I was moving from there to somewhere else, he wanted my mind to be made up and he helped me greatly, helped me settle bills and even gave me some cash to move on with. It happened between I and him and no one knew what happened! So, that you love someone shouldn’t be the reason you want that person tied up to where he or she shouldn’t be. Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone you love is to send them forth into where they should be. Love is not selfish and love doesn’t keep holding people to itself when that person needs to be somewhere else. Not letting go will bring hurt in the long run because whatever is not meant to be there will never be compatible no matter how we try fixing it!
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This applies in everything! Yea, you should always go for what you want but when you realize it won’t flourish in your hand, let it go! There are great things that may not flourish in your hands, don’t keep holding to it, find what is uniquely designed for you and hold on to it. Let me use relationships for instance! There is someone who wouldn’t do well with your kind of person, you may love them and they may even have one or two things for you but you know they are better off with someone else, you know this wouldn’t even end up making you happy or fulfilled but you just don’t want to let go because you feel you can’t just deal with seeing her or him belong to someone else! This can even graduate to a very bad feeling, wicked thoughts of killing that person and killing yourself too! Not letting go sometimes culminates to murder and depression, you must not always have it to yourself and you’ve got to train yourself not to grip on to things so hard!
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By letting go, you are making yourself ready to accept what is coming to you, you are dealing with the past and you are embracing a better future. When you let go, you “let come”. You can allow someone else into your life and you may realize you should have let go a long time ago. Sometimes, those things we thought were the best always turns out to be nice but not really great! On the other hand, you let go because you couldn’t give that person what he or she needs from a partner. I understand some don’t let go because of their overprotective tendencies but it is time to allow things be, there are things you can’t handle and you have to stop trying to control people or be controlled! Yes, you had always wanted her or him forever but since it isn’t working, don’t hurt him or her by trying to hold on to them. It is not every love you fight for, some, you allow them to seek their own happiness!
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Love on its own is not enough to have happily ever after just like we see on cartoons. Those things are as fake as the cartoons! If things aren’t going well, letting go would be the best option rather than keep allowing it heat up to that point you both end up as enemies. You can let go even as you feel that love burning in your heart and trust me, when you part ways in love, there may be a time when you could meet again with good chances of starting all over! Even when it isn’t about starting all over again, you both could still be able to help each other with no hard feelings! You can deny hatred from taking its toll on you by letting go and goodwill preserve the goodwill. So, love let’s go too!
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I am George O.N
The Man-In-God
#GracefulGeorge