MAN AND WOMAN | The complete expression of humanity!

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I am often regarded as a feminist and I don’t go with tags, yet I don’t say I am a feminist or not. I found my understanding of the women in the revelations of God’s word and since then haven’t changed my stand on who the women are. I keep telling people, if I am a feminists, then God is a feminist too!
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As a quickie, I want to drop this line again “Women are equal with men! It is unarguable and nobody can bring up a sensible fact to dispute it. Being equal doesn’t mean being the same!”
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The man and the woman are just different expressions of humanity. No one is lesser in value and none is greater than the other. In their diverse expressions, strength is seen! The man is strong from the outside but the woman is strong from the inside. This is why men take approach based on facts available while women take a more intuitive approach because of their ability to perceive people and circumstances more deeply with better memory capacity! While a man will want to hit immediately, the woman wants to understand the tactics first and this is where both man and woman needs each other. The man needs the more intuitive approach of the woman and the woman needs the will power of the man. It brings a balance.
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No matter how strong a man is, the woman he loves have enough strength to put him in the place she wants to if she understands the strength she has inside of her. This is why men have to carefully make their choice of relationship with women. As great as Samson was, a woman without much stress had the ability to pin him down! Samson had the physical strength but the woman had the inner strength. I am only using the story of Samson as it relates to the discourse. So while men has enough strength in their muscles, women have it in their emotions. Scientifically, the woman’s brain is more active at rest than that of the man. Isn’t that the reason why a woman will want to talk after a hard day but the man would prefer to stay alone after same experience.
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The woman is like the man’s backup, she manifests enormous strength in the absence of man’s strength and she expresses this strength from behind the man so that people will think it is the man’s doing. But when the man is capable, the woman wants to receive not because she is a gold digger but because this is how she tell if she is loved or not. She wants to feel loved by your giving but the man wants to feel loved by your appreciation. There is something more about the woman when it comes to receiving and giving. The woman receives and transform what ever she has received into something greater and when she wants to give, she gives back what she has received into something more greater. A woman for instance is a man who makes men, she’s a man with an extra! Aside making babies from what is received, the woman can also help you bring an idea into reality. The ministry of Jesus had constant supplies from the women, they transformed the love Jesus gave them into materials. Women give out of deep respect and appreciation for what has been given to them but men give in a sense of responsibility.
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The man and the woman in their different expressions are complete and there is no unit to measure whose expression is more weighteir than the other. It is in this sense that we say both the man and the woman are equal in value , possessing their own unique abilities that defines what they are designed to do. So, in the equality of man and the woman, the man is expected to operate according to what he is designed to do and the woman operates according to what she is designed to do. Being equal had never meant being the same in operation!
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Let me use cocoa and coffe for example which isn’t a perfect example though. Both are designed to produce caffeine but both also have what differentiates them. The taste isn’t the same, the quantities of minerals in both varies, one may have a greater percent of certain minerals while the other may also have a higher quantity of another different mineral but none is more important than the other, none is of more value than the other! As much as this isn’t a very perfect example, I want you to understand that the woman have her areas of great strength while the man also have great areas of strength! There is a part of the woman’s strength that is designed to backup the man when he stumbles! If men and women can start studying and understanding themselves better, there will be less struggle for superiority and every one will start functioning in the path they are designed to function. Let me make this clear, the woman is designed to function independently and very strongly in the society just as the man! The woman is needed in every organisation as much as men. The women’s thinking ability should complement the way men think too. While men speak from their mind, women speak from their heart. While men speak before they think sometimes, women think before they speak! Those emotional part of women usually compliments the man’s toughness when they work together.
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But in the family setting, the woman is different from who she is in the public just as man is different too. In family setting, the man and the woman are ripped off personal rights, they’re meant to function as one and in interdependence to one another. Being a wife and a mother is different from being a woman. Subduing and dominating the earth is not just a man affair but also a woman affair! Both were given that blessings! The woman was not asked to submit to men but to her husband only! She wasn’t even asked to practice how to submit to her husband by submitting to other men. The woman is not supposed to greet men because she is a woman, everyone should greet one another! The woman is not supposed to serve men just to practice how to serve her husband, everyone ought to serve! The woman shouldn’t be made to feel she is lesser than the man!
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Many people have been living in absolute ignorance of who they are and therefore they believe all sort of things people say. For a marriage to successfully work for instance, the man must understand the place of the woman and allow her function in her place! You can get the best of both sex when you understand their functions. A woman needs your affection more than she needs money, you may give her all the money in this world but without your affection she isn’t satisfied! Let me say this very quickly, you may seriously need revelation to understand the place of the woman! When God caused Adam a deep sleep, it was a time of revelation and he woke up and saw the woman knowing clearly that she is the bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh! Being a woman is not being another type of human, it’s simply another expression of humanity! She was formed out of man but she was created and preserved in God! Just as the sand isn’t superior to man, man is not superior to the woman! The making of the woman’s body out of that of man only shows the kind of intimacy that can exist between the man and the woman which cannot exist between animals and man. Animals were also formed from the dust and Adam couldn’t find a suitable help meet out of them!
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The relationship between the man and the woman cannot thrive in subordination but in partnership. It is not the kind of relationship that exist between humans and their animal pets. The woman is designed to partner with man and not to be ruled by the man and by saying “partner with the man” it means partnership on equal playing ground. Of all things humans were given rights to rule over, they weren’t given rights to rule over another. Being more emotional doesn’t make a woman weaker, in fact their strength are so well tied to their emotions. Big truth is, God wired male and female the way He did so that they can function in their supposed places… the man and the woman can’t be doing the same thing! The woman was created in Genesis 1 at the same time humanity was made! She makes up the very fabric of humanity, not in a lesser degree but in the same capacity as the man. She was only given a separate body later! Being a suitable help meet for the man doesn’t suggest bearing children and taking care of the home, Adam identified the kind of help meet she is when he said “the bone of my bone…” This means she is just like him!
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The kind of submission a man needs from his woman is a submission based on respect. This is not a good Morning kind of respect but respect that comes in real value. A respect that questions decisions with Wisdom and not absolute authority. The man have a tough nature is the sense that the way he interpret love is based on one’s ability to listen to him and treat him with respect. Because of this, the man is overprotective and always wanting to know what is going on in your life in a way that his assistance would be demanded. The man will not want the woman he loves to do it all alone, he wants to be involved. Being extremely independent of a man who loves you will only kill that man’s security gradually. This is why a man who loves you will always want to know when you made your hair and how you got the money, when you bought a new phone and how you got the money… He is more jealous but less soft about it and he wants to be sure someone else isn’t carrying his responsibility. Like it or not, a man who loves you wants to be the one taking care of you even if you’re making more money than him. He interprets this care differently from that of the woman, he cares because he feels it is his responsibility. A man who loves you can be managing old clothes while making sure his woman is wearing the best! This is how the man’s chemistry is designed by God. The man is designed to protect the woman, the way he expects to be loved is that he is seriously carried along… This is based on respect.
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But the woman? The kind of submission she needs from the man is based on affection or in other words “romance”. Every woman doesn’t just want a romantic partner, they need it. It is man’s responsibility to initiate this affection and make the woman feel very important. You can get the best of a woman in a relationship when you make her see the best of herself through your own eyes! Jesus did this, in a society full of patriarchal ideologies, Jesus said to a woman who would have naturally been stoned to dead while the man she committed adultery with be left unpunished “go and sin no more” by saying that, Jesus was implying “you can live again, you are worth living! You can actually be better, go and become better!” That would be the first time someone was ever giving her that impression, that she could be better! No wonder women followed after Jesus, meeting His material needs! Women are the biggest force on earth, when they are for you, even men cannot stand their force!
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Peter Lombard said “Eve was not taken from the feet of Adam to be his slave, nor from his head to be his lord, but from his side to be his partner.” The woman is not serving the man, the man and the woman are serving the Lord together! The Bible didn’t just ask wives to submit to their husband, Paul carefully started with “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” (Ephesians 5:21) So any man who isn’t also submitting to his wife is not reverencing Christ! It is an insult to Christ not to also submit to your wife. Paul explained how this mutual submission can be expressed! The woman can express this by having deep respect in the way a man understands it and the man submits to the wife with love especially in affection because this is how the woman understands it better! Love a woman who wants your love and she’ll be respectful to a fault! Respect a man who wants you and he increases his love capacity on you on a daily basis.
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Blessings.
I am George O.N
The Man-in-God
#GracefulGeorge