UNCLOAKING LOVE 1 | What they never told you about love…

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Any consistent reader of George’s Diary articles will be familiar with how we define love. One of the most confusing things on earth is the subject of love because a lot of people do certain stuffs and call it love while many thinks love has got something to do with what they feel. However, as a believer in Christ Jesus, our understanding of love should be different because we do not see things the way the world sees them and we should not allow the world have influence on us because the world does things the opposite. Take for instance, many people would have a one night stand or engage themselves in a relationship where they could just have sex and go their way but they still call whatever thing they were doing “love making” or “love affair”. Well, when you look closely at what they do, they are simply satisfying their selfish desires! It is all about them, maybe about the money they’d be paid, or maybe the pleasure they would derive from it. Whatever thing they are doing in such relationship is simply a meet to their lustful desires. Lust has to do with self, people can give just to have a way to satisfy their lust and they’d still say its love! It is not love as much as stones aren’t water. Love affair means things done in love, it doesn’t mean lust.
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Starting from the fall of man in the garden, man was exposed to the devil’s way of doing things, the very opposite of how God intended it to be. For instance, God said the man would rule over the woman and her desires will be for the man, He was simply telling them what to expect in a system established by the devil! It was never His own intentions and design for a man to rule over the woman, we were given everything to rule over but not fellow human! Another example is where God said they will suffer before they would eat but that wasn’t God’s design, He was telling them that in a system established by the devil, they would only live by struggles. No wonder, in the New Testament, we started having a glimpse of God’s original design. The Bible instructed husbands to love their wives instead of ruling over their wives. The Bible also said in Christ there is no disparity between men and women in the sense of anyone saying he or she is better than the other. In Christ, there is equal level of playing while each and every one of us locates our areas of strength and start functioning there. With the parable of talent, you will understand that everyone was put in their areas of strength but no one was considered better or above another. So, with this things, we can know that the world’s idea about love is not something we can hold on to because it is not strong enough.
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Love is not sexual activities, prostitutes would have been an embodiment of love if that was the case. Prostitutes may be ready to stab you if you do not pay the agreed sum of money after sex, at least we’ve heard several stories of such things happening! Love is not sexual desire or activities, a lot of people agree they don’t love themselves but they often share mutual sexual desires and it all boils down to “she will be good on bed for me” and you see its about “me, me, me and me.” In tennis, a score of zero or squash is called love too! But all of these things does not define love any bit.
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Love is a decision, to respect and be a support to someone or something. Lust can be committed to a goal of pleasing self but love always seek to be committed to a goal that is of good to the other person. Love and lust can share a lot of things in common but there is a thin line that brings in the difference. Whenever it is about you, check well, it is not love, it is lust. Saying lust here does not necessarily mean “sexual desire.” You could be lusting after fame and comfort and because you feel marrying someone will help you get there, you enter a relationship with someone not because you have decided to be committed to this person for his or her own good but because of yourself. People get married for their selfish desires, people get into lots of things for their selfish desires and it is only very few people that make that sacrifice of loving because love is a sacrifice and no sacrifice happens by feeling, it is a decision that has been well thought over.
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The Bible says that God is love, this means the only place we can find the true definition of love is in God and the Bible also called satan the father of lies! So, if satan presents anything as love, we are better not taking it from him because it is lies! Knowing God brings about knowing what love is all about. The Bible says God so loved that world that even while they were yet in sin, He came in the person of Jesus, wore flesh, grew among men just to bring men to the knowledge of Himself and in union with Himself through the death and resurrection of His earthly being. God’s love never came as a result of our positive attitude towards Him, there was no sign of love from us to Him but He loved us and came for us. As believers, this same love of God has been shed generously in our hearts. The day we became new creatures in the Spirit, love also became our spiritual nature for the Bible says we are just like Him here on earth!
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Love was shed abroad in our hearts and not in our head! Even while we may not have been practicing this love, we have it in us but we can only get it out to visibility when we get that love across to our head; that is, in our mind. Until we start filling our minds with the knowledge of God and of the things He has done in us, we may find it difficult practicing that love. It is by study that we get it across to our head and we cannot practice it when it is not in our minds. Love in its true form is not a feeling, it can build feelings but it is not a feeling and because you are born again doesn’t mean you will start feeling good about everybody! Love is decision and action and if you don’t have it in you, God would not have asked you to love in the Bible! You cannot ask someone who has no bulb, lamp and electricity in his house to switch on the light! If He asked us to love, it means we have love and we can love!
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Someone might ask, but I love people and they don’t love me back, what do I do? I will try to answer this two ways. First, the Bible says we should extend love to enemies, Jesus said this knowing that people don’t need more advise on loving their friends. So, we should love everybody, we should be intentional with helping people, we should be intentional with praying for people even if we don’t like them, you must not like people to love them. There is something else I’d like you to know and that is where many people don’t understand it…. Continued on UNCLOAKING LOVE 2 | Don’t marry for love.
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God bless you!
I am George O.N
The Man-In-God.
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