THE PRECIOUS GIFT OF SEX

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I don’t usually feel at ease to talk about sex because a lot of people will feel I am not qualified to talk about it since I am not married yet. Those thoughts may have some truth in it, I may not know all there is to sex, I am not even sexually active because I believe in the importance of sex and how it is best practiced with just one person you have sealed the deal of a lifetime. I have learnt from the experiences of others and I am very enlightened in diverse areas as regards to life. So while you wait for the counsel of a married folk, manage my “unexperienceness”.
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A healthy marriage aside other things includes a marriage where sex is creatively enjoyed. Sometimes, sex in marriage should go beyond having sex when you feel like to really having sex just to ensure you bring your spouse to that satisfactory flood tide. You don’t just come home horny, ask your partner for sex, satisfy yourself and push her aside as long as you’ve gotten yourself what you wanted. Sex should be more of trying to give your partner pleasure than just satisfying yourself.
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A lot of women don’t truly enjoy sex in their marriage because the man is usually selfish in that area or most times ignorant. Some think the woman isn’t the one who needs sex, they believe the woman is the sexual object meant to satisfy the man. It is the women that usually learn how to sexually satisfy their husbands but many husbands don’t care about satisfying their wives. That is an error! Let me show you what the Bible says concerning sex
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“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinthians 7:3‭-‬5 NLT
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When we talk about keeping the marriage bed undefiled, one of the ways to ensure that is to consistently engage your partner in sexual activities. The Bible didn’t say sexual satisfaction is the responsibility of the woman, the Bible says it’s the responsibility of the man to the woman and the woman to the man. In marriage, it’s not just the man who has authority over the woman, the woman also has authority over the man. Sex is a wonderful ingredient for every healthy marriage. Sometimes I don’t know where people get some of their teachings from. They want you to think sex isn’t very important but no! For marriage, sex is more important than many other techniques! Sex is more important than food!
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Biblically, when a woman needs her husband, the man shouldn’t deny her his body as much as we have always encouraged the woman not to deprive the man of her body. I want us to understand something about what Paul meant when he talked about “sexual break” for a period of time. He wasn’t saying there should be sexual break but if couples must not have sex together when they want, it should be under an agreement. It takes two to agree and if the man wants a break and the woman doesn’t want, the break isn’t valid!
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Paul wasn’t married! In fact he even wished everyone was single as him but he understood the importance of sex in marriage. I am glad Paul needed not to be married before being qualified to teach this wonderful truth.
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One of the ways Satan finds his way in some people’s marriage is when they don’t have good sexual relationships. The man and the woman needs to creatively find ways of satisfying their partner. There is no better decent way to have sex, there is no decent sexual position, there is no sexual technique meant for Christians alone. You’re not wrong to desire diverse sexual positions but ensure you aren’t being influenced wrongly from outside. Sex in marriage should be between you and your spouse, explore yourselves by yourselves and let no one do that for you!
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When couples are interested in satisfying themselves sexually, their sex life improves greatly because as the man is satisfying his woman, the woman is satisfying the man. No one will feel cheated and left out. A woman is not a semen-sewage, the woman has desires too that needs to be met and when your wife is craving for sex, she is not being a spoilt child!
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Sex wasn’t designed by God only for the purpose of procreation, sex was designed by God as a means of deeper intimacy. Truth is, there is a level of intimacy you’ll never achieve with your spouse without great sex. Sex builds intimacy that words cannot explain, it bonds both couples together more and more. Check every couple who are too fond of each other even when they are apart in their work places, they are having great sex!
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While at work, it’s not out of place to send your spouse a text message that has sexual tone. It is not wrong to tell your spouse how great he or she has been when it comes to sex and it’s not out of place to tell your spouse how you want to be satisfied. Yes, have as much sex as you can until both of you are very old! There is nothing sinful or wrong about sex in marriage. It is not wrong to have cravings for your partner. Don’t let anyone make you feel something is wrong with you. Sex is a beautiful thing God has designed for couples to enjoy in the confines of marriage. In my marriage, we’ll surely do it to the point of no return! Sex should be intentional.
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Sex is very powerful and that is why God limited it to marriage. You’d be destabilizing your emotions when you keep having sex with random persons. Let your spouse be your sex tutor as much as you are her tutor. In your marriage, be adventurous enough to have sex anywhere, anyhow as long as it respects your privacy. It would be in the kitchen, in the bathroom, on Sunday morning before you leave for service, on Saturday morning after returning from Night vigil, in the staircase of your house, in the sitting room… Anywhere! As long as you’re sure of your privacy because your children shouldn’t be watching you have sex! However, your children will see a deeper bond and learn to love from you.
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Let me say again, great sex in marriage makes the marriage better everyday.
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I believe this helps.
Blessings.
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-George O.N-
#GracefulGeorge

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