SURVIVING BREAK UP

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Of what use is it to keep wailing over what you should consider a deliverance? A lot of broken relationships are healed marriages in the future. I don’t want to talk like I am stronger than you but you should be able to stand strong even when you are sure you wasted a lot in a failed relationship. Don’t consider it a waste though, consider it as tuition fee in the School of Life.
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If you feel it’s very impossible to let go, you’re lying to yourself. You feel this way because you’ve keep filling your thoughts with him and it’s time you liberate yourself from that mental slavery. You’re powerful enough to pull him out of your mind forever. Yes, you’ll momentarily be haunted by memories of good times and it will gradually give way but you’ve got the power to set your mind on something else. You can delete his number and pictures from your devices or maybe save them somewhere else for the day you’d look at it and laugh at yourself for ever crying.
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There will always be that time when you’d even ask yourself “but what was so special about him? He wasn’t worth all of that after all.” Free your inbox of all those messages that brings tears to your eyes but am also sure you would remember them someday and ask yourself “was I under any kind of spell?”
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When you’re able to get your mind under control, you will realize you’re powerful enough to smile and wave at him when you bump into him. Yeah, your true disposition maybe to walk away from him, spit at him, kiss him or even hug him because you feel life makes no sense without him, you have that power to just wave at him and keep walking without looking back. One thing is, it makes you extraordinarily charming!
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There are those times you may pick up your phone struggling with the urge to text him and tell him how much his absence is getting at you. You may be tempted to check out his Facebook and WhatsApp status to see how he is getting on with life. Those things happen but you have so much power in you to kill that urge and live your life like he never existed. Not because you hate him now but because you want to best of you, you don’t have to tie yourself to the past. The past used to belong to you but it isn’t yours anymore.
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Being a very emotional person who love without reserve, I usually build my life around people I love so much. I know how it feels when people leave you after all the things you’ve done hoping you are investing into a lifetime something but you shouldn’t let those emotions be your enemy, handle it. You have the power within you to survive without anymore thought of the person. You have the power to have a gist you would feel happy telling him but you just ignore it because you need time to heal. You don’t need to talk with him this minute and be crying again the next minute.
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It’s okay to remember his touch, his whispers, his looks into your eyes and his smiles when you lean on him. It’s okay to remember those heart touching things but it’s also within your power to remember them and still smile rather than let those tears flow again. You have to admit that he doesn’t belong to you, that he is not the best person out there, that he is just a fraction of many wonderful people out there. You’ve got to admit that some good things can end and you’ve got to accept that this is the end. Don’t let him get back at you out of sympathy, he may pretend as much as he but surely isn’t with you anymore. It’s better to let it be and stay free. It’s good to learn to be alone now than allow the memories and fear of being alone make you fall deeper into misery thinking you’re falling deeper into an unconditional love. It’s better it ended now than stay more few years in a scam and still breakup.
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He may be the best of his kind but it’s not his kind you need. You’re powerful enough to fish again and keep fishing till you get that one fish with treasuries in its mouth. You are strong enough to be hopeful even when it seems like you just couldn’t get anything better. Yeah, you’re powerful enough to end the search and sleep. So, you must not even go fishing. Maybe the clusters are just so much in your head that you need to sleep and let it clear. You’re powerful enough to stay alone for sometime than rush into another relationship just because you’re afraid of being alone.
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Even when that tears flow, you should know your aren’t crying because you’re weak, it doesn’t mean you failed yet again. It may seem so but it doesn’t even mean you’re pathetic. To even allow those tears flow means you are strong enough to admit the pains and the disappointments, to admit your feelings and to pass through it. It’s okay to write your pains, burden the notes with it and allow yourself pass though it until you suddenly realize you have cried enough, wasted strength and precious streams of tears. Cry until you realize you’re not meant to dwell on that lane for long. Only this way can you scramble through the shattered pieces of your heart and start fixing them again.
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As much as you cried, let every wipe of those tears be the wipe of him and his touch off your mind. As you flush the tissue or wash the handkerchief, let it be a total flush of him. Even when you get to see him again, see him as a brand new different person and not someone who had a large part of your heart. You’re powerful enough to do that. Also see yourself as a new person, the new you never dated him. You changed from good to better. Maybe he dated a naive and good you but he never dated the better you. You’re wiser and stronger. Appreciate the memories, hold on to the lessons but let them stay in the past. Since you’re in the future, the past doesn’t belong to you. Let his name be “my past’.
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You’re wise enough to know that you don’t deserve your past, you deserve something better, a better life, a better relationship and a better commitment. You know you deserve the truth and not just someone whose love is determined by the seasons and their momentary selfish desires. You are wise enough to know when people are just wanting to have a good time and go there way and when someone truly wants to be there forever regardless of the good and bad.
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Believe me when I tell you that inside of you lies the strength to ignore the temptation of letting your lust and infatuation make you get into another mistake. Now, you can sleep and wait, you can end the search and allow that person to come as a gift. You know that while you wait, you’re ready! You don’t need another ex, you need someone who is ready to be part of you. That’s why you stop searching and wait.
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You are better, wiser and stronger.
At least, now you know time will heal that heartache, you can survive and you can stay happier and more fulfilled.
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Blessings.
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-George O.N-
#GracefulGeorge