WHY HE CHEATS ON YOU

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Okay, before I start making my mind bare, be aware that “he” here represents every gender. Men cheat, women cheat… Anyone who wants to cheat cheats. Also be aware that cheating doesn’t just mean having sex outside marriage, it also means betraying one’s trust on you by having any kind of affair supposed to be exclusively for him or her.
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We already have a lot of questions in this world begging for answers. People want to know what was before the beginning of this world, people want to know how God came to be, people want to know how science suddenly popped up and started making magics that could be defended. People want to understand a whole lot of things and among this questions that usually don’t have answers is “why did he cheat on me?”
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You have to end the search for answers now. Stop honing your psychic abilities in a bid to round up a theory and present your thesis. I believe I’ve got some answers for you and you have to know that cheating isn’t a new thing. Betsheba would have sworn to remain faithful or rather have her head on the floor than agree to go in with King David but she wasn’t faithful, she cheated. King David too was a cheat! Men are considered polygamous and sometimes women are always made to be the only ones wondering why men cheat, we hear things like “men are adventurous and can’t settle for just one.” But it’s not true… I’ll tell you why people likely want to cheat. You’ll also get a possible hint why sometimes it maybe you giving him an opportunity to bring up excuses using his weakness.
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1. YOU ARE NORMAL

When you’re cold, somebody else is hot. In this age of digits, you’ve got to be digitally present too to your partner. If you aren’t a freak for your partner, another person is trying to play that role. I am not making up a possible excuse for people who cheat but I want to turn the table around and also see where we might be needing to do our own job.
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Some don’t want it normal, I for one don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who is normal. Although I’d rather leave than cheat, some aren’t matured and sane enough to respect you and they start meeting someone else because you’re too normal for them and they can’t tell you exactly what they want. Relationships doesn’t require norms, it requires both persons being very fond of each other and very creative with how their love is expressed. Some ladies would think that sending him text messages would make him think they are chasing after him. Let me tell you, I want my woman to always give me that impression that she misses me, want me and care about me. I’d start having doubts if a woman I care about doesn’t call like I do or pay attention to me like I do to her.
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In marriage, some couples want to be orthodox about sex and what should work for them in marriage. They don’t try to find what works better for them by themselves and they stick to the status quo… Believe me, being normal is boring and one ignorant fellow would opt to seek for more outside. Even when some don’t cheat, their eyes would still wander in certain fantasies they wish their woman or man would realize. When someone begins to wonder if you’re truly the right person for them, every carelessness or lack of enthusiasm in a relationship is an opportunity to slip off. Don’t be a boring partner.
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2. NO FRIENDSHIP

If I was caught up in a situation where I can’t think hard and was asked “what is a friend?” I’d say it’s two persons whose souls are knit together. Everyone one wants to confide in who they feel at peace with, who they can share their challenges with, who seems to understand and care about them. The man was created to have a company and if that company doesn’t exist, he would want to find one himself. I don’t know how to be in a relationship with someone who I can’t say is my best friend.
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A man will always cheat on someone he feels he shouldn’t be accountable to. This is where what you want matters. Some moved in with a man just because of his wonderful resources or his fine body. Some moved in with women who appear sexy and very nice but these things aren’t strong enough to hold a relationship. A person who isn’t your best friend cannot be accountable to you. You’ve got to intentionally grow a relationship with someone who truly care about you, who respect you and of course hold your friendship of high esteem. I’d always say that I will only be in a relationship with my best friend, I can only marry my best friend because there are times that friendship would be the only thing that keeps holding us stronger. Ignorant people cheat sometimes because they are also in search of friendship but never looking for it in their partners.
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3. SEARCHING FOR GREENER PASTURES

I used to have a shiny shoe so many people liked. A man even opted to buy it from me but I declined. I always felt good wearing this shoe until I bought a new one and suddenly it seemed the difference was dawn on me. I hated the old shoe and stopped wearing them. Some people cheat simply because they got attracted to something shiny and more desirable than who they have always had. Some starts noticing that their woman nags just because they met someone else and felt that person is good, they start seeing negatives with every single thing their woman do. This is because they had subjected their relationship to comparison and their mind has been reconfigured.
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When the heart of a man starts questioning his relationship, he fails to understand the depth of where he is headed to. He may look at his woman and suddenly realize “this woman wasn’t very beautiful after all.” This same man would see another woman he has no other little details on and assume she is nice and more built than the other.
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Certain people sometimes forget what their mother’s food tastes like when they are in 5 Star restaurant. This is what happens to people who cheat, they are always moved by a present desire for gratification.
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3. NEGLECT

Some people cheat on their partner because their partner was no longer what they used to be. Some people fall in love with you without thinking of who you would become. Perhaps, you were always at the gym because you needed to look good and attractive, then you got his attention, he started dating you and you decided to quit the gym since you’ve gotten what you wanted. One thing you must know is, someone else is in the gym looking the way he wants. While this is still no excuse for cheaters, it is something you must work on about yourself to remain attractive to your partner. That skin he saw, keep maintaining it! That romantic man she saw, keep upping your game. If you aren’t white, don’t pretend to be white. See, no one is forcing you to be who you shouldn’t be but just be yourself and let one who wants you that way find you.
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4. WHY DOES HE CHEAT?

I don’t believe you should be tired of what you truly love. I don’t believe there is fun in trying out new people since your heart should be stuck with one. Some men and women are just hopelessly living the way they want and they just cheat because they are cheaters.
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Some people who cheat were preys to temptations, they seem to have been forced into it, they seem to have absolutely tried to make their relationship work but somehow along the line they fall into a temptation. They are usually sorry for crossing the line and cheating on their spouse! But there are people who are just predisposed to believe they can’t belong to one person. They have no reason to cheat… Sorry, they do… Their reason is that they are cheaters! It’s simple.
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Some, especially among the male folks claim its normal, they say men are polygamous and adventurous in nature. Some even blame it on society and their home. I once sat to a talk with a young lady who said to me “I don’t have issues with my husband cheating on me. Once in a while, a man would have multiple sex partners because men are designed to function that way but I only pray him to play safe and always remember I am his wife.” I was shocked because if I was a female, I surely can’t put up with a cheat and even give him passes for that!
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Some cheaters can’t be helped because they don’t want help, they just prefer to live their lives that way… Like animals. Animals don’t have one sexual partner and they said humans are animals too right?
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Whatever reason you seem to agree with about a cheating partner, deal with it. If it demands praying about it, do it. But please, know the limit of your strength and never settle for a constant heartbreak. I am one person who can’t settle with a cheat, not because I can’t forgive but because I am emotional and I don’t easily get by this things. I’d rather stay unmarried and without a relationship than constantly be in a union my heart isn’t considered, where I am not all my partner needs in a man.
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I can’t say about you. I’d just say, let everyone carry what they can bear.
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Blessings.
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-George O.N-
#GracefulGeorge

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