RELATIONSHIPS | THE RISE AND FALL

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There is a natural law that says whatever goes up must come down. Some don’t come down faster, some does and the most important truth is that coming down after going up is natural and shouldn’t be a surprise anymore. Change is constant no matter how we think we can control it, change will continue happening. This truth can also be said of our relationships.
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I hate to sound this way but I don’t need to be “spiritual” here because we are talking about what has a great impact on the natural man. You can only have one relationship that will last for a lifetime after several other relationships based on “trials and errors”. I just pray the “trial and error” relationships don’t take up a large chunk of space you shouldn’t have allocated to your lifetime partner when it eventually becomes a success.
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If you can look back at the memory lane, you’d be sure to remember a lot of persons who had occupied the best part of your heart until something happened and they lost that place. Can you remember how you thought you wouldn’t do without them? Oh well, you finally realized you were happy without them after getting over the thoughts of the good times. Can you ask yourself why they left?
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Perhaps you’d have a long list! Perhaps it was a misunderstanding, fear, lack of trust, betrayal, death or maybe you found yourselves walking different paths and the entire thing faded into the space.
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How many were those sweethearts from your past? I know some would count one, some would count none now but count one or more in the future, some would count 10 or more but one thing is common, you were part of a cycle. They probably left someone before they would be with you and now they’ve gone, they’d still be with someone else as much as you’d still meet another.
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At the end of my last relationship, I was so sad. I hated that I was part of that cycle, I hated that I tried but couldn’t last with her because my desire wasn’t a momentary relationship but one that would last as much as we stay on earth. I felt I wouldn’t be in any relationship anymore because I just didn’t want to be part of that cycle again. As much as I am no longer ready for any serious relationship yet I have realized I can’t deal with the change. I can only deal with how I see that change.
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The future is big, great things will come and go. Business partners will come and go, friends will come and go and these cycles will not stop until the ones who are perfectly fit for those space takes occupancy. No matter how you don’t want to, you’ll still meet great people, lovely souls and wonderful enthusiastic people. You’ll meet people with great characters and they will eventually replace those people you thought you wouldn’t do without but left you. Yes, it works that way.
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Unless you have dug your own grave and buried yourself. If not, the church, organisations, malls, bank halls, parties, concerts and much more places are potential discovery ground. Even if you don’t want to make any discovery, you would be discovered. Even if you think your defenses are strong, you will still meet someone who knows exactly where and how to pull down those defenses and penetrate your heart. Sorry, you can’t help it. The cycle continues until there is a seal! Even after the seal, some divorce, some pass away…. I don’t pray these things happen but I just want you to know that some good things begin and end.
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Relationships come and go. I wish the day I was born, God assigned me my own woman and we grew together loving ourselves and eventually check out of this earth together after building a home that will outlive our flesh. But that’s not how God designed it, He gave us opportunity to make choices, He knew about our frailties and also created room for a second chance and more chances.
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Changes happen, it could be fast or slow but it does. One time love birds would become just friends! The passion can fade with time, one would pledge marriage and tomorrow change their minds. These things are things you absolutely have no ultimate control over because you’re also dealing with people who have their own say and their own choices. You can make your choices today and decide to remake your choice and same goes with them.
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No matter how spiritual you want to be, people get older and weaker in the body. People also get wiser and some might even realize it wasn’t you they needed. People can change locations and meet new people who would replace your space in their hearts, people would enter new schools or find new interests. It pains at times to think about these realities that someone you always wanted might not be there forever but I believe knowing this will ease you off a lot of pains when it finally happens.
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Being good, caring and very romantic won’t stop people from remaking choices. Sometimes they just realized they needed more than just a caring and romantic fellow. Perhaps that used to be their fancy but they have grown to know it isn’t enough. These choices cannot be made in marriage and therefore they decide to save you than keep pretending till your marriage crash!
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I wouldn’t say it’s a wonderful thing but I wouldn’t say it’s a bad thing either. Let people who left be and never ever bear grudges. It will surely hurt but let your hurt heal by knowing it’s normal. This is just the way things are. Even your life partner will leave someday maybe during old age when she or he would check out or their earthly body! However it happen, choose to stand strong and chose to be open to love because denying yourself one will do no good.
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As much as you have come to terms with this, when you witness a change or a loss of friendship, you can be ready for it. It wouldn’t come as a surprise. It is not bad to affirm that your life might not always be the way it used to be now, always pray and believe for the better. But when the worst happens, brace up and stand strong.
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Knowing this will make you appreciate what you have when you have it because you don’t have it anymore you’ll know the importance of what you have had. It will also make you never take anyone for granted because you may not get to see them again. Let there be a story you’d leave at every lip that came across you. They may say “although it never worked out, he is the best guy I ever met in my life.”
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Some leave because they only came to play games with your heart and when they were done, they left. Some left because they never planned staying with you for long, they wanted what you have and got it. Now, don’t think everyone who left you came for the gold. Don’t even assume it. They left? Let them be but be sure to hold on to the lessons they left behind.
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With this, you can make the best of what you have when you have it. Blessings.
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#GracefulGeorge

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