STOP CRYING | THEY LEFT FOR GOOD

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Why are those tears still flowing? Because you were left alone? Dumped like a waste? And you feel so bad for all the time, energy and resources you invested into building a relationship you felt was meant to last? Well, if you were ever left alone, it means he or she was meant to go. I’d be using “she” throughout but be sure I am communicating to you regardless of gender. If she ever left you, she was not meant to stay with you.
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Don’t think the world is being hard on you, don’t even think the one who left you hates you that bad. I understand some play with the feelings of others, get what they want and take a walk but even if that was the case, you’ve got to see their leaving as deliverance from marital failure because that’s what you’d get if you successfully pressure them into staying for a long time.
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You’re so depressed you were dumped right? I’d tell you something now. She was a decoy whether she knew it or not. Though a pleasure, she was a distraction. You may not have even choosen her with your eyes open, perhaps her sweetness lured you, you were lost in the fantasy of her and she felt momentarily infatuated to you until she nursed fears while you kept nursing hope.
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Perhaps, now you know sweetness isn’t enough and people’s disposition about you when they first met you aren’t important. Sweet may taste nice but it’s obsession is a death sentence! Maybe, now it’s clear there is more to admiration and facial beauty which must be considered before giving in to someone. Isn’t that a great lesson from your past? That lesson is the only thing you should hold on to but you’ve got to move on fast.
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One thing you don’t know is, she may not be happy she left, she may be in the dark corners of her room crying, starving and denying herself a lot of things. Yes, she left because she wanted to deal with it once and for all, she wanted to stop playing along because she wasn’t seeing the future you were seeing. Maybe she needed clarity but couldn’t find it and she walked away. This is why you must not take her as an enemy, this is why you must still see her as one who played a role in your life no matter how bad it was.
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Let’s go down memory lane a little.
Maybe she was fund of you, she was all over you because there was more to you she never saw. You felt she was it, you desired her, thought about her so much to the point she was all over your head. You showed her love, she felled for it but later realized her own mind needs to be made up, she quickly realized she needed to feel exactly the same you felt but she couldn’t force herself to love you better and she left you… Yeah, she never planned to but situations you couldn’t control made her a decoy.
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Aren’t you determined at this moment never to let yourself be persuaded by what you felt and what you were told? All those romance, adventures, optimism and the rest can’t persuade you anymore to fall for someone. Yes, because you now realized there is more to what you feel! Haven’t you realized from your hurting experience that you will not fall in love again to a future but to the now? At least now you’ve learnt you should love today and allow today evolve to tomorrow.
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Are you still in pains? I need to tell you something. Don’t be motivated by anger, don’t feel betrayed and unloved. This is your preparation for a greater love and you must be ready for it. Be ready to give greater and love better but be sure never to betray yourself again because some stuffs shouldn’t happen to you a couple of times. For going through this pain of breakup, it is enough test, and your ability to move on will determine the extent you can go to do better.
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You need to understand something, she didn’t come into your life because she was the one you need. Her entrance into your life was a preparation to be able to overcome your tendencies towards feeling inferior or incomplete and to help you see more reasons why you should stand your own ground and try loving yourself. Although she was an involuntary decoy, she did nothing wrong by leaving you. That was the best thing that ever happened to you because that moment you were cleared of all those mistakes. At least she needed to go so you can be back to your senses.
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Now you’ve got to be strong, you’ve got to prove that you can stand on your own, give attention to your own life and be compassionate about your own self. Consider her exit as a gift. By her exit, you were released from bondage and you’ll look back at time someday and never even understand why you had to cry that she left. Sometimes it’s good to be thrown down so that a bullet don’t hit you. Pushing you down maybe painful but it can save you from life threatening situations.
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Having known this, why not get a handkerchief, spray perfumes on it, wash your face and wipe it off with your scented handkerchief. You need to cry no more. Be thankful for what happened and perhaps God saved you from lots of mess that you would have gotten involved in. Although you may not find answers to a lot of questions concerning her exit from your life, you are sure the future is bigger, brighter and better.
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Now you can carefully define your standards and see that your liberty is your own responsibility. You can now take your time to know what you want and not just any flashy person. Believe me, she may have been what you thought you needed but at the end, you’ll see what you were looking for in someone else. The world is big enough to be bankrupt of love but it’s too small that you can quickly reconnect to someone else. Why crying over a spilt milk when you’ve learnt how not to spill milk again. You are strong, I understand how bad you felt and being an emotional and hyper sensitive person I know it is heart piercing. But you’ll be fine… Hugs.
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You feel better now right?
I love you so dearly….
Time heals.
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#GracefulGeorge