BEING SUPER ATTRACTIVE

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Being attractive is beyond being appealing to the sight. Of course a lot of people look so attractive in their make-ups and fashion but such attraction seem to expire with time. Have you ever came close to a supposed beauty and suddenly changed your mind after seeing them act, hearing them speak or studying their temperaments? Yea, you were attracted to him or her yesterday but how about today? Are you still attracted to them? Truth is, a lot of people have missed it, loosed relationships and loosed wonderful friendships because they stopped being attractive. They didn’t necessarily stopped looking good but looking good is just a minor part of being attractive. I wouldn’t want it to be a long post, so I will hit the hammer on the nail straight up.
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In my own definition, to be attractive isn’t just to be appealing to the sight but to the five senses of man. The Bible says that man considers the body but God considers the heart. Truth is, no man can know the state of anyone’s heart, we can only assume it but what we see, taste, hear, touch and feel towards them. The bible didn’t even say it is wrong for man to consider the body, God was only indicating that He wired man in a way things appeal to them through their senses. No matter how spiritual a man tends to be, there is always a role the senses play when it comes to attraction and that is how God wired man.
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Some people aren’t pleased with their partners anymore because they are becoming very uncomfortable as regards to who they married, they aren’t seeing the person they got married to anymore, they are seeing something else. I know from experience how this would cripple a relationship. The words you say, the things you do, your entire expressions are elements of attraction. I remember reaching out to someone via Facebook in a bid to assist her do something, she got attracted to me without seeing me but my gestures were modes of attraction. A lot of people became less attractive because they stopped being what they used to be or at least they stopped expressing it. To the eyes of man, you are what you express and not what you have in your heart. The Bible says the mouth speaks out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth is designed to communicate the heart vocally, and the body in its entirety can express what is in the heart. God will not need those expressions to know our motives but man can only assume from what we do.
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You have got to be intentional with being attractive else you loose a wonderful relationship. Do you know finding a little time out of your busy schedules to text, call and talk with your partner is a powerful tool of attraction? When your partner is always giving and calling while you remain at the receiving end, you’ll soon frustrate their efforts and start loosing them because the lesser you stay attractive, the more others look attractive. The lesser you communicate with your partner, the more they find solace in the communications of other persons. Sometimes, there are those moments your partner isn’t settled, he or she just want to talk with you, not because you have answers but because your words of encouragement or your concerns alone can relieve them. Attraction is powerful and relevant when building and maintaining a relationship. Communicating well, showing concerns is as good as looking good and wearing a cheerful aura at all times.
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Having said all of the above, there are things you can do to yourself to remain attractive. I had to state the above so that no one thinks it is just about self. While desiring people to remain attractive, while desiring to have back who you used to know, you also need to work on yourself because you may have become unattractive enough to start commanding the attention you used to command. It is human you’re dealing with, therefore you must understand it.
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One of the ways to become very much less attractive is to start seeking for attention and start feeling good about your own personality. Sometimes, people who usually go hell-bent looking for attention are people who feel less of themselves and seek validation. When you feel good about yourself life becomes less hard and you don’t have to depend wholly on relationships. Relationships starts loosing is sweetness when the feeling of rejection begins to set in, you do not have to invest time assuming what your partner is thinking about you, why she didn’t pick up your calls, why he didn’t give you support as he usually used to do. You also don’t start assuming where your stand in your partner’s life is. It is true we always need security and assurance but when you develop sturdiness within you, you can quickly become flexible and dynamic to sooth into the challenges you couldn’t avoid. Truth is, anyone who wants to walk away will walk away but it is your disposition that determines how it will get at you. So you see, when you feel good about yourself, you will quickly allow anyone who wants to walk away to go because you believe you’re good enough to attract someone else.
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Another thing I believe will make you very attractive is that you do not have to be hard on yourself. Don’t overstress yourself with worries and anxiety. The Bible says we should place our anxieties on the feet of Jesus and Jesus said we shouldn’t worry about things that end in this world. While it is not ultimately avoidable, we can determine how much impact it will have on us. If you love someone, you will definitely not feel good when they aren’t reciprocating your good deeds but you will not let yourself be consumed in it. Your life depends on no one, you had a life before you met him or her and your life continues when they are not in the picture any more. So why place your life on pause mode because of someone when you have the greatest influence in your life? You should pay less attention to the negative things you perceive and learn to always push small issues aside. No matter what happens, you are not defined by a successful or failed relationship, you are not also defined by what people think about you! You know yourself better, you know your feelings better and you can’t expect people who don’t know you better than you know yourself to become all you had wanted them to become for you. When issues become unbearable, don’t take decisions at that time, try to breathe hard, try to play music or even look at the mirror and make a joke.
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Trust me; your display of strength at these times makes you really attractive. Don’t make anyone look with pity on you and see you as unstable. Remember, your partner isn’t the reason why you must stay attractive, you stay attractive for yourself.
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Just in case you do not know, people who take proper care of themselves and have a greater sense of purpose are very attractive and compelling. Everyone wants to associate with them and they aren’t taken for granted. When you are in control of your emotions it is a great display of self-discipline which means you are not a burden to people or depending on them wholly for your emotional needs. You have to stay healthy, sleep well, exercise your own body and take quality time to treat yourself well. When you are happy, it will be sensed by others and they will always yearn for your presence. Don’t let people judge you but ultimately don’t let yourself judge you. A lot of people allow themselves to be judged by themselves. It is your own responsibility to encourage yourself and be of good cheer. The bible didn’t say we should look for those who will cheer us up; the Bible says we should be of good cheers! It can come from within. When our partners realizes we are always moved by every little insignificant thing they do, they find it very uneasy and uncomfortable to always express themselves before us because they don’t know how we will understand them. But when we are always cheerful and supportive, they will always find us interesting. Just know that worry solves nothing, it doesn’t stop who wants to leave from leaving, it doesn’t stop who wants to cheat from cheating, and it doesn’t stop who doesn’t care from being less concerned. Instead of being an extra burden to yourself, cheer yourself up all the time. When people realize you are depending on them wholly for how you feel, you are simply scaring them away.
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Develop a habit of meditating, reading, exercising, working at a project, helping others and other things that could take your time positively. By getting busy with the right things, you will not be all over your partner all the time. Let them also yearn for your presence.
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Finally, you’ve got to know that it isn’t just all about you. No matter how you take care of yourself, no matter how you have suddenly loved being alone, you still need others. One of the things you need to do is to work on your self-esteem. This prevents you from seeking for approval from anyone, you don’t have to always look out for appreciation and sense of belonging all the time. Seeking for attention doesn’t mean it will come; it will only keep making you feel very insecure. Don’t always expect others to do so well like you. You may be too caring but don’t expect people to be as caring as you. Don’t let what they do limit what you do. While you are happy by yourself also make another happy and teach them how to love. Be supportive, generous, listening and attentive no matter what! Also be sincere, don’t nag or make a habit of complaining about everything but be open and sincere!
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Believe me, you are super attractive! You just have to work on yourself and get it pronounced.
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Blessings.
#GracefulGeorge