RELATIONSHIP THERAPY | SPICE IT UP!

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Being a hyper sensitive person, I know how it feels when I seek for someone’s affection and not get it. I don’t mean some random persons but that special person who believes we have a future together. The worst feeling comes when I’m trying to pass a message that says “I need your attention” and get the cold feet. I may not even know what exactly it is I want at those times but I sure do know I would be satisfied knowing that my partner truly care about my feelings. Showing concerns about my feelings gives me a sense of security in that relationship and it even causes me to give much more attention in return because I have trust more that I am investing in the right relationship. But when it seems I don’t matter a lot, I seem to draw back bit by bit until none of me is left in that relationship. I usually tell people that if I suddenly stop calling or chatting like I do to someone, it means that person is gradually loosing all of me.
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I have also realized that when one person’s mood in a relationship is usually down, it means he or she doesn’t get much attention as they needed. It also would be that they are becoming increasingly worried that their love isn’t being reciprocated.
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In a relationship, there are times your partner have this unexplainable and unreasonable craving for you. Those moments, its just you they want, its just you they want to see and talk to and their appetite for you goes up to an unimaginable extent. Your partner might have to look for ways to get at you and your attention means a lot at those moments. You might not really understand what’s going on, you might even feel very irritated at some sort but they are just looking for your attention and sense of belonging, she just want you to tell her how much you love her, he wants you to tell him how much you appreciate his love and how you communicate at this moment would be the game changer.
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When one have sought for this attention and isn’t getting it, they’d probably raise a dust just to get at you! Some would suddenly become moody, they aren’t truly moody but they just want to be shown love, care and support, so they just fake it because they know if you truly care about their feelings you’d ask. You should be wise enough to hold his hand at that time, stroke her hair or say some sweet words like “Sweetie, I don’t know what it is but if you wouldn’t mind, can you share it with me?” You might get the “nothing is wrong” answer, they might even tell you its a slight headache but don’t push so hard to get an answer. They just want to be loved and pampered, so what you do at this time is very important. Just remind her how much you’re in love with her. Little display of care would satisfy that need for you. When you aren’t always sensitive enough to know when your partner needs your attention, you would be loosing his or her trust to truly love them in good and bad times. Love is not something you do in your mind, it is expressed as much as it is thought. Your partner will not smell it in the air that you truly love them neither will they read your heart. If you don’t always give your partner that sense of security, he or she wouldn’t know you love them.
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How about those times your partner would send you multiple love texts in a space of fee hours or minutes? They would call and call again for no good reason and you think it’s alright to just read the messages, smile, say to yourself “my partner is good” and continue with your activities? That would be very unfair if you don’t respond the messages or tell your partner some sweet words over the phone. Your partner was texting you that much because he wants you to know how much he loves you but also wants to know how much important they are to you, if you miss her, if she is on your mind and if she is worth a shrink of time out of your busy day for just a reply! Unfortunately, a lot of people don’t understand these things. A lot of people fail in this regard!
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Every man and woman needs attention, no one is meant to enjoy it the most. One way or another they would want to get it by their own means and it is your duty to understand when they need you the most and what you’re supposed to do at that given time. Be creative in your relationship and don’t only show affection when you feel a butterfly. Regardless of how busy you are, you can sneak to your phone to send just a message that would add flavor to your partner’s day. You can be creative enough to send a voice note they would play and know you truly love them. Getting irritated when your partner is trying to get your affection will hurt your relationship so badly. By not being generous with your attention and affection to them, you’re training your partner to live comfortably without the thought of you, without seeking your attention anymore, without craving for your smile and touch! Gradually, you’d start loosing them because it makes no difference having you in their lives! It adds no single excitement, it adds no value and there is just no need when emotional needs aren’t met.
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Spice up that relationship!
Spice up your love life and be a great lover!
Pick up your phone, text him or her now and appreciate your partner.
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#GracefulGeorge

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